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You Can Say No Program

Many people find that they are challenged in saying yes to what they want or they put what they want last. Because this is so prevalent in our lives I created a program to assist with saying no.

It is the You Can Say No Program. This program allows you to explore saying no so that you can say yes to what you truly want.

This program is for you if you want to: gain or strengthen your ability to say no, stop being ignored, walked on, dismissed, talked over or shut down and if you wish to: have time for what is important to you, want to feel nurtured and supported in your days, be able to standup for yourself, have your voice be heard and open to the possibilities that enrich you.  

The You Can Say No Program is crafted to assist you in becoming comfortable and confident saying no in most instances so that you can say yes to create a life that you love. The complete program includes:

  • Your Ability to Say No Quiz (Value $175) Take this quiz to see how well you are able to say no and find out why that is important. Use this link to take the quiz for free!   https://www.fyrebox.com/play/your-ability-to-say-no-qu_9DROZGpan
  • One Free Introductory Coaching Call focused on Your Ability to Say No Quiz results (Value $150) Send me an email at: seed4change@gmail.com after you take the quiz to schedule this free coaching call.
  • You Can Say No Coaching Calls (Value $3,300) which includes: two coaching calls each month that are an hour in duration. Coaching calls are individually tailored to you and explore topics such as:
    • Identifying  your strengths and areas of growth in saying no,
    • Developing and applying discernment on what nurtures and supports you and what drains you,
    • Making healthier choices,
    • Self-care,
    • Strengthening boundaries,
    • Developing tools to deal with people’s reactions to you standing up for you and for what is right for you,
    • Becoming comfortable and confident with saying no in most any situation,
    • Designing goals and actions steps for saying no and for saying yes,
    • Exploration of areas where you say yes based upon what you want.

Value is $3,625

Saying no is important to your well-being. It is the first key to building a life that you love.

You can save money if you sign up by August 26, 2019! The cost is ONLY $272 per month for eleven months ($2,992) or one payment of $2,897 if you sign up by August 26, 2019. After that the cost goes up to $3,487 if paid in full or eleven monthly payments of $317.

BONUS: One month FREE! (Value $300) Pay only for 11 months of coaching calls and receive the twelfth month free for the You Can Say No Program! (An added benefit of calls includes never having to fight traffic or find parking, instead engage in coaching from the comfort of your own home.)

SPECIAL BONUS: Two additional “emergency” coaching calls for additional support as needed if you pay for the program in full! [These two calls must be used within the duration of the You Can Say No Program.] (Value $300)

Total Value with bonuses is 4,225.

If you sign up for this program by August 26, 2019 it’s only eleven monthly payments of $272 per month or one payment of $2,897.

Click here to sign up now (subscribe) for only $272/month:

Or click here for one payment of $2,897:

Planning your days to include more of what fills you in good ways and eliminate or change what empties or depletes you is how you begin to create a life that nurtures and supports you.

OR TRY THIS INTRODUCTORY THREE CALL PACKAGE: The Three Call Package is designed to let you get the feel of coaching, see what it’s all about and begin the process of working on saying no so that you can say yes to what you want. This introductory program includes:

  • Three You Can Say No Coaching Calls (Value $450) which includes:
    • Three coaching calls that are an hour in duration.
      • The first of these calls is focused on Your Ability to Say No Quiz results,
      • The second and third call will begin to work on your ability to say no with goals personalized to you.

Total Value of Introductory Three Call Package: $625

If you purchase this limited three call package by August, 26, 2019 the cost is ONLY $397! After that date the cost for the limited three call package goes up to $475.

Click here to sign up for the Introductory Three Call Package Early Registration of $397: 

There is richness contained in what you want.  

Let me know if you have any questions. I’m looking forward to talking with you! Shelly O’Connell, Life Coach

Your Ability To Say No Quiz

Hi everyone,

I am offering a NEW Program with special rates through August 19, 2019! It is the You Can Say No Program. This program allows you to explore saying no so that you can say yes to what you truly want.

This program is for you if you want to: gain or strengthen your ability to say no, stop being ignored, walked on, dismissed, talked over or shut down and if you wish to: have time for what is important to you, want to feel nurtured and supported in your days, be able to standup for yourself, have your voice be heard and open to the possibilities that enrich you.  

Take this free quiz to see how well you are able to say no and find out why that is important.

Self-Care Tips to Use When Your Trauma is Triggered

Past trauma can be triggered by different things. If yours is showing up or you are feeling overwhelmed here are some self-care tips to employ.

  1. Emotions are normal. It’s okay to feel and express your emotions. It may be that they are an appropriate response to an inappropriate situation. Let them out in ways that are not harmful to you or others. Crying, screaming, drumming, pounding your pillow, dancing while stomping your feet are great ways to let some of that emotion out. Once emotions are allowed to be expressed we may feel a bit better. The release and expression of emotions are needed and healthy.
  2. Pause, breathe and check with your self about what you need. Do you need rest, food, water, to be unplugged for a while, time in nature, exercise, spiritual nourishment? What? When you recognize what you need in the moment, do it. Don’t put it off, take time to do whatever your self has told you it needs.
  3. If you feel like this is trauma that needs to be heard; talk to someone like a trusted friend, self-help hotline or professional. If you are not ready to talk about it and you don’t have to talk about it unless you want to, you could write it down and then tear it up. Sometimes buried or suppressed trauma needs these things but only when you feel you are ready.
  4. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Recognize that your emotions and reactions may be sensitive and you may be more reactive than usual. That is normal when emotions and trauma have been repressed and are now triggered. Don’t be too hard on yourself and know this will pass as you express the emotions and care for yourself.
  5. Speak up. Let others in your life know that you are sensitive. You do not have to explain any further than that unless you want to do so. Say what you need and don’t.
  6. Retreat. If you need time alone, take it. Doing what is right for you includes time to be on your own if that is what you want.
  7. Honor what is right for you at this moment. It may change with each expression of emotion or trigger of past trauma. Go with what you need now.
  8. You are not alone. There are people who love you and people who understand that past trauma can be triggered. Reach out if you need help with what is happening and with what you are feeling.
  9. Recognize that you are so much more that the past traumatic event. You have many tools and resources both within you and at your command to assist you now.
  10. Notice one small thing to pull you into the present moment. The wonder and beauty of nature are great tools to use here. Being in the present moment is helpful in remembering that the traumatic memory is in the past.

I hold you in love and compassion as you express care for your self. – Shelly