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Ever wondered how some women get a man with just a look?

Maybe you feel awkward when a man flirts with you? Do you judge women who flirt in public? You’ve forgotten the art of play. Here to remind you is a self-confessed triple-A flirt, one in a long matriarchal line of flirts, for whom the art is an everyday thing.

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Shelly O’Connell has observed, experimented, recorded, and now reveals the art of flirting, so you can play more too.

Shelly O’Connell, author of Finding Your Flirt and Flirting Coach for Women.

Shelly coaches women to reframe flirting as a form of play and to deconstruct the patriarchal bs about it that limits women. Women invite fun and play into their lives and gain confidence flirting when they engage in Shelly’s flirting programs.

Her professional and personal goals are to have women experience their joy and radiance through fun and engaging programs. Shelly lives in Northern California with her husband, Kevin, where she enjoys painting, dancing, being in nature, and of course, flirting.

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What People are Saying

Hey Girl, Let’s Talk About Flirting

Hey ladies, this is your chance to see and hear me talk about flirting. Here is what the host, Kathryn Yarborough, wrote about the interview, “During this interview with Shelly O’Connell, a Flirting Coach for Women, you’ll find out how to reclaim play via flirting so that you can engage with life in ways that enrich and delight you! How fun!”

It was fun! We got the chance to play and flirt a little too! I shared the story of how I got started being a flirting coach, some tips on flirting and we talked about my book, Finding Your Flirt. Check it out and let me know your thoughts. Tune into this interview on the Real Women. Real Purpose. Talk Show where Kathryn Yarborough interviewed Shelly O’Connell. Watch the replay. #RealWomenRealPurpose

read Reviews for Finding Your Flirt!

Lighten up!

Finding Your Flirt is an excellent journey to putting a smile on your face and more fun in your life. It gives practices and exercises to get your flirt on. Even if you are in a relationship, it is a beautiful reminder to keep it fresh and flirty and that having fun is possible. Thank you, Shelley, I am winking back at you!


Mary P., Amazon Review

Fabulous book for all who want fun in their lives!

If you want to increase the fun in your life, read Finding Your Flirt! O’Connell describes how flirting is a game that allows you to connect with others in a playful and safe way. She sets the stages for her readers to begin flirting and then add to the process with more clarity and intention along the way. In each short chapter, interactive exercises help you, the reader, to become engaged in really learning the art of flirting. O’Connell reminds us that we have the power to set our intentions and our own desires. Best of all, Shelly encourages us to laugh for it makes us feel good, relaxed and open. I highly recommend this book for all ages – for all who want to find and use their Flirt!


Karen H., Amazon Review

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Get Your Copy!

Don’t miss out on the fun you could be having!

Finding Your Flirt is available NOW on

Can’t get enough of Shelly?

Here’s your chance to work with Shelly one-on-one! Talk about your flirting goals, get support breaking through comfort barriers, and most importantly bring more fun into your life! You’re worth it!

FInding your Flirt Program

Finding Your Flirt Program

Time to get your flirt on with the Finding Your Flirt Program! The Finding Your Flirt Program includes twelve coaching calls that are specific to your flirting needs and goals. Each call is sixty minutes. During the program you will:

  • Define your unique flirting goals.
  • Learn the key skills in the art of flirtation.
  • Put the flirting skills into practice.
  • Refine your area(s) of growth so that you become the confident flirt you want to be! 

Flirting Fun 101

Flirting Fun 101

Hey, Girl. Here is your chance to improve in flirting. We will look at your challenges and goals for flirting during this 90-minute call. You will learn one key skill in the art of flirting that is specific to you which can make the biggest difference for you now.

You will take away tools and exercises to help you practice the skill so that you become more confident using the flirting skill. Included is an overview of the key skills of flirting contained in the Finding Your Flirt Program.

FInd Your Flirt Personal Journey

Alright Sugar, let’s create something that is tailored to your personal flirting needs. Whether you feel a few coaching calls on flirting would help you get your mojo fired up again, you want to take it one call at a time, or you decide on something else unique to coaching on flirting, let me know.

Each call is 60 minutes for the price listed on the Find Your Flirt Personal Journey Appointment. I recommend booking a consultation to get clear on what could work for you. 

Your Flirting Consultation

Curious? Let’s talk about flirting. During this 30-minute call we will cover your flirting goals and challenges and talk about the options of flirting coaching that are available to you.

Get your questions answered and decide what option could work best for you.

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