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Pull Together to Lighten the Load

I’ve been thinking about division and how it increases the heaviness of our burdens. When we divide and have an us or them view it narrows our potential support, resources and opportunities for new possiblities. This makes any load that we are carrying that much harder to bear and move.

Think of it this way: If there is only one hauling the cart with the load it can be a struggle. It takes so very long to make the cart move and to deliver the load to its destination. This method can feel overwhelming. It keeps you isolated by doing it all alone.

Likewise, if there are two pulling the cart from opposite directions it becomes a tug of war. Each one is straining to make the load move even an inch in the direction they are headed. Ground may be gained but it can easily be lost as they exert all of their strength against each other. As you might imagine the load may never arrive because each one has a bull-headed destination in mind. I’ve termed it such to illustrate that each one pulling in opposing directions only gives consideration to what they want, to what is important to them.

Right now we are all carring a similar load called COVID-19. The coronavirus is a scary and heavy load that requires us all to pull together in the same direction toward a mutual destination. Both the direction and destination are; health, wellness and a way to move forward that does more than just get us through it. I’d like to see us all arrive at our destination healthy, well and uplifted because we did pull together.

In order for that to happen we have to let go of petty differences and judgements that slot people into disparaging categories. We have to release blame and shame, criticism and stubbornly wanting it our way. We must move beyond all of that limited way of thinking and being.

We are being called to a higher consciousness where we consider others feelings and needs equally to our own. Each of us can begin to offer compassion, kindness, love, hope and support to everyone without constrant. We all could use more of these qualities offered to us each day. Let us find ways to pull together, even while practicing social distancing, to lighten everyone’s load…including your own.

Your Ability To Say No Quiz

Hi everyone,

I am offering a NEW Program with special rates through August 19, 2019! It is the You Can Say No Program. This program allows you to explore saying no so that you can say yes to what you truly want.

This program is for you if you want to: gain or strengthen your ability to say no, stop being ignored, walked on, dismissed, talked over or shut down and if you wish to: have time for what is important to you, want to feel nurtured and supported in your days, be able to standup for yourself, have your voice be heard and open to the possibilities that enrich you.  

Take this free quiz to see how well you are able to say no and find out why that is important.

Surrender; What’s That?

Often the word surrender is interpreted as quitting or giving up. While it can have that connotation in a siege it has other meanings when it comes to your life. For example, have you ever felt like you were struggling uphill with an impossible load on your back? What if you let some of that stuff you’ve been carrying go? Or perhaps you are doing everything you can to met other people’s agendas. Maybe it is an agenda that they have for your life and you want to please them but the cost to you and your well-being leaves you drained, empty and probably resentful. What would happen if you opened up to whatever uplifts you?

Surrender in these terms is not a passive, “I give up.” Rather it is a conscious and deliberate awareness to take action in your life. It is getting honest with yourself about what is not supportive to your happiness then being open to reframing things or letting them go. At the same time it is vital to notice and then embrace whatever nurtures and uplifts you. In this way surrender becomes the first step in creating a pathway to a life that you love.

Lifting Up Love Global Intention

Hello everyone:

This is an invitation to join together as a global community to Lift Up Love. I am inviting you to join in Lifting Up Love on August 11, 2018 at 7:00 PDT. (I am in California. Here is a link to find out what time that is for you. http://www.thetimezoneconverter.com/) On that time wherever you are in the world pray, align, meditate, hold your focus, drum, do ritual, have ceremony, light a candle, however you offer your intentions do that. Imagine it as manifested as you focus on this intention:

“Love is the prevailing force in people’s hearts, mind and actions. All feel and think from love as they take actions that uplifts love for everyone, thereby creating more kindness, compassion, respect and honor for all of life. And so it is.”

This event came to be because I became overwhelmed with what is taking place in our world. At first this feeling paralyzed me because I felt the trauma and was not certain of what to do. Then this thought occurred to me, “I am not powerless.” None of us are powerless; in fact we are very powerful indeed. As I remembered this truth I began to think about what I could do.

My morning includes holding a positive intention within me and then sending it out into the world. Many of us do this individually and/or within our groups and communities already. My thought was that if we could all focus our intentions, prayers or vibrations on Lifting Up Love at the same time, we would amplify the energy of love, which is the most powerful transformative force in the Universe, to create a new day. A day and world that holds up love in people’s hearts, mind and actions for everything, thereby creating more; kindness, compassion, respect and honor for all of life.

I am inviting everyone that I know to join me in this intention. Actually, I am asking people whom I don’t know too. Some of those people I am listing here to show that we can connect with other communities who might join in this endeavor to usher in this vision. Those I’ve asked to join beyond people I know are: His Holiness the Dali Lama, Deepak Chopra, Oprah, Krishna Das, Deva Premal and Miten, Russill Paul, Native American Elders, Leaders in traditional religions and non-traditional religions, spiritual groups and individuals.

If you share this idea with everyone you know and with some whom you don’t, invite them to join us in Lifting Up Love. Ask them to share with others too. I believe if we all participate we can tip the scales to a more loving world.

With deepest gratitude, Shelly O’Connell

Use the link below to join the event on Facebook and you will also receive a reminder of the event.https://www.facebook.com/events/370338000164805

Interested in Coaching? Next Step…

I offer Life Coaching services to assist you with: resilience, healthy relationships, boundaries, self-care, life design, awareness & use of personal wisdom, and goals specific to you.

Interested? The next step is to contact me to schedule a free Discovery Session. During the Discovery Session we will talk about your goals, dreams and ideas for your life. I will explain how the process of coaching works and my approach. Together we will determine our fit and go forward from there.

Use this link to contact me: https://shellyoconnell.com/contact/ I invite you to also visit my Facebook business page at: https://www.facebook.com/coachingbyshelly/ To contact me there click on the “send message” tab at the top of  page and I will respond.

Looking forward to speaking to you!

“Coaching concentrates on where clients are now and what they are willing to do to get where they want to be in the future.” – Source: International Coach Federation (www.coachfederation.org)

 

Dreaming You into Being

“Once upon a time when the wind was new, I had a dream and created you.” The thought in my mind as I awoke today. It captured my attention. I began to wonder about the concept of being fashioned when the wind was still young.

The topic of whether intelligence, science or something much larger conceived of us is another conversation. No matter if you believe in some omnipresent being behind the design or in science alone, go with me for a moment.

Imagine for minute or two that we were dreamt into being long, long ago. It sort of shifts your awareness to the magnificent possibilities that exist within your being. How could it not? I find it difficult to believe that all of the planning to bring us here would not include absolute radiance!

What if my thought is true? How might if shift your life, your dreams and your space in the world if you knew that you really began when the wind was new? I am hoping that it sparks your imagination toward breathing life more fully into your being. What would it take for you to start living from the ancient, creative being that you are in true reality?

Join me at https://www.facebook.com/coachingbyshelly/ to explore more fully.

Navigating the Space Between

Finding yourself in a place where what was and what may be can be challenging. You have grown beyond your old life and your new life has not yet fully formed.

It might be tempting to cling to the old since it is familiar. However, it is like wearing a pair of shoes that are too tight and pinch your toes. Trying it would be uncomfortable and part of you would always feel constricted. There is no shrinking possible on your part that will sustain you in a life that you have outgrown.

Turn your eyes toward the future and envision the life that you hope to live. I know it can be scary, maybe even downright terrifying to imagine. Still it calls to you. The tug on your heart will give voice to your dreams.

Negotiating the transition between your old life and the new one requires an honest admission that you’re leaving the old life behind. You already have so quit pretending that you can go back. It doesn’t fit you anymore. Once you have done this you can begin to move toward the new.

Now you can dream and get clear on what you want. You create a specific goal with an achievable plan to bring the life you want into being.

Life coaching can assist you with navigating the space between while helping you to move forward in the way that you design. I would be honored to share this part of your journey with you. Those of you who are interested may contact me via this link:  https://www.facebook.com/coachingbyshelly/

Create your dreams!

 

Intention

Intention is all about where you focus your attention. It’s the actions created based upon what it is that you want. Consider intention the plan that you have made to get there.

We all know that some intentions get swept away much like the waves erasing writing in the sand. What then makes our intention come into existence?

Commitment and a clearly drawn out strategy ensure the probability of success. Sharing your intention and the design for bringing it forth with another person makes it more real. Adding some measure of accountability to that conversation can make a difference in following through on your intentions.

Intentions are the whispers of our hopes. Follow them.

 

What Do You Really Fear?

People sometimes let fear limit their dreams and goals that they hold for their lives. These worries might be running under the surface of conscious thought. Whether the fears are known or a vague anxiety they still function as blocks or constrictions in realizing the goals for our lives.

Happily, these restrictions can be lifted. If you would like to know more about how that might be possible please contact me at: seed4change@gmail.com.

Start living your dreams.

Life Coaching

“We all need a sacred witness in life, a person who can listen without judgment while knowing the right questions to ask that continually illuminate our path.” – Caroline Myss – This quote is the essence of Life Coaching.

In Life Coaching people work on their goals, dreams and desires for their life. Within an environment of non-judgment, clients create action steps toward their goals and learn to identify and remove any obstacles in the way of moving forward.

The International Coach Foundation offers this definition of Life Coaching: “Professional Coaching is an ongoing professional relationship that helps people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers, businesses or organizations. Through the process of coaching, clients deepen their learning, improve their performance, and enhance their quality of life.

In each meeting, the client chooses the focus of conversation, while the coach listens and contributes observations and questions. This interaction creates clarity and moves the client into action. Coaching accelerates the client’s progress by providing greater focus and awareness of choice.

Coaching concentrates on where clients are now and what they are willing to do to get where they want to be in the future.” – Source: International Coach Federation (www.coachfederation.org)

If you want to learn more about Life Coaching and the benefits it can offer to you in achieving your goals, dreams and desires please send me a message at: www.shellyoconnell.com/contact to schedule a free discovery session.