Hey, have you seen this rule book? You know the one that’s given to us by society and added to by those who had influence in raising us. It’s the one that tells us how to be, what to do and how to get along in our world. I’m certain you have one. We all do.
This book is pretty ragged and dog-eared from our daily reference to what it contains. Here’s a newsflash, one that I hope you share with everybody! This rule book is mostly made up of expectations and agendas for your life…wait for it…that would be other people’s expectations and agendas for your life. Kinda crazy when you think about it, huh? It would be one thing if those folks had your best interest at heart and ya know maybe some do. Overall though these rules are designed with an eye to what is beneficial to others and not for what is best for you.
The conformity construct of it is to keep you small and watered down. So I invite you to examine the rules within it. Ask yourself if the expectations and agendas from others support you in having a life that nurtures you and gives you the life you want. If not perhaps it is time to write your own book with a story that grants you the authority to shine brightly and play large.
Feeling tired, overwhelmed, bored or wacka do? Nature is the ultimate reset button when you need to rest, renew, and restore a sense of equilibrium.
Science now has a multitude of studies to prove the benefits of spending even twenty minutes in nature. But you don’t have to take their word or even mine for it. Try it for yourself and see what happens. Get out there and sit, walk, bike, hike, boat, float or zip-line your way to the reset you need. Do it today, I dare ya!
Standing still for a moment and looking around there is a field of infinite possibilities. Do you know where you are going or do you let the wind of the day pull you along hither and yon? Having a plan can get you to where you want to go and help build the life you dream of having.
If you do have a plan ask yourself some questions, such as: Am I excited about where this plan is taking me? Do I pause to take a look around and notice what is happening in the day? How open am I to new possibilities? Is my curiosity and enthusiasm present? What are the steps I am taking today?
If you don’t have a plan to create the life you want, ask yourself questions like: How is this going for me? Did the day bring me closer to the life I want to live? Do I know what I want? How might my life be different if I had a plan? Am I willing to do the work to build a life that I want to live?
Either way, plan or no plan, as adults each of us is driver in the vehicle of our life. Where are you going?
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Often the word surrender is interpreted as quitting or giving up. While it can have that connotation in a siege it has other meanings when it comes to your life. For example, have you ever felt like you were struggling uphill with an impossible load on your back? What if you let some of that stuff you’ve been carrying go? Or perhaps you are doing everything you can to met other people’s agendas. Maybe it is an agenda that they have for your life and you want to please them but the cost to you and your well-being leaves you drained, empty and probably resentful. What would happen if you opened up to whatever uplifts you?
Surrender in these terms is not a passive, “I give up.” Rather it is a conscious and deliberate awareness to take action in your life. It is getting honest with yourself about what is not supportive to your happiness then being open to reframing things or letting them go. At the same time it is vital to notice and then embrace whatever nurtures and uplifts you. In this way surrender becomes the first step in creating a pathway to a life that you love.
As a part of your self-support plan include some fun. Taking the time to play and laugh opens you to possibilites that you might not have considered. Fun renews you and places you fully in the present moment. Playfulness and fun are trying to engage you. Notice them and let them in. If you get stuck think of the two in this photo for inspiration. Ready, set, go!!!
As you start and move about your day include some ways to show your appreciation for your self. Take some time to really treasure the uniqueness and wonder of the creation that is wholly, individually and intrinsically you and you alone. It’s a revelation and marvel when you do.
If you are like most of us this is a foreign concept. We are taught to care about others, the environment, our relation to the whole, our impact on the world, etc. Those things are key in being in harmony with life and I believe we need to learn to honor and appreciate ourselves too.
Stand boldly and vibrantly in the glorious expression of you! Don’t shrink, stand down or play small, instead revel in you. Find some ways to offer your gratitude to your self just for being you. Try it today and see what happens. Set a challenge to notice and appreciate at least ten wonders of the miracle of you. Bonus points if you find more than ten. Ready, set and go!
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Little moments of joy call to us to pay attention to what it is that makes our heart smile. They ring with truth’s tone for the way they instantly restore us to our essential essence. As we experience them we are fully present in that moment.
Awareness of these tiny delights remind us that life is meant to be enjoyed while we are living it. They point the way to creating a life that uplifts and nurtures us.
They may be small, but they are powerful! When little moments of joy happen, notice them, pay close attention. Let them guide you and see what happens. Report back…
What is it that nurtures you? At first glance this question might seem frivolous or unrelated to your life. That’s understandable since we are conditioned to focus upon our work. If we live our life only concentrating on our career, burnout is sure to follow. Consider placing some attention on what nurtures you.
Start small. Begin with thinking about what uplifts you, notice what gives you energy, inspires you, makes you feel fit, centered or calm and happy during your day. These are the areas that support you in your life. They are a part of self-care and are what nurturing you is all about.
Acknowledge those things that drain you, tire you out, cause you stress and bring your energy down. Doing this is important because these are the opposite of self-care. Continuing to do too much of them destroys your well-being.
In order to nurture yourself commit to doing one small action today that lifts you. Also, let go of or modify one thing this week that drains you. If you add in nurturing things and release unsupportive ones you will begin to experience a lightness and appreciation for your life. This takes commitment and consistency. Nurture yourself each day and you begin to foster a life that cherishes you.
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