Standing still for a moment and looking around there is a field of infinite possibilities. Do you know where you are going or do you let the wind of the day pull you along hither and yon? Having a plan can get you to where you want to go and help build the life you dream of having.
If you do have a plan ask yourself some questions, such as: Am I excited about where this plan is taking me? Do I pause to take a look around and notice what is happening in the day? How open am I to new possibilities? Is my curiosity and enthusiasm present? What are the steps I am taking today?
If you don’t have a plan to create the life you want, ask yourself questions like: How is this going for me? Did the day bring me closer to the life I want to live? Do I know what I want? How might my life be different if I had a plan? Am I willing to do the work to build a life that I want to live?
Either way, plan or no plan, as adults each of us is driver in the vehicle of our life. Where are you going?
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Often the word surrender is interpreted as quitting or giving up. While it can have that connotation in a siege it has other meanings when it comes to your life. For example, have you ever felt like you were struggling uphill with an impossible load on your back? What if you let some of that stuff you’ve been carrying go? Or perhaps you are doing everything you can to met other people’s agendas. Maybe it is an agenda that they have for your life and you want to please them but the cost to you and your well-being leaves you drained, empty and probably resentful. What would happen if you opened up to whatever uplifts you?
Surrender in these terms is not a passive, “I give up.” Rather it is a conscious and deliberate awareness to take action in your life. It is getting honest with yourself about what is not supportive to your happiness then being open to reframing things or letting them go. At the same time it is vital to notice and then embrace whatever nurtures and uplifts you. In this way surrender becomes the first step in creating a pathway to a life that you love.
As a part of your self-support plan include some fun. Taking the time to play and laugh opens you to possibilites that you might not have considered. Fun renews you and places you fully in the present moment. Playfulness and fun are trying to engage you. Notice them and let them in. If you get stuck think of the two in this photo for inspiration. Ready, set, go!!!
As you start and move about your day include some ways to show your appreciation for your self. Take some time to really treasure the uniqueness and wonder of the creation that is wholly, individually and intrinsically you and you alone. It’s a revelation and marvel when you do.
If you are like most of us this is a foreign concept. We are taught to care about others, the environment, our relation to the whole, our impact on the world, etc. Those things are key in being in harmony with life and I believe we need to learn to honor and appreciate ourselves too.
Stand boldly and vibrantly in the glorious expression of you! Don’t shrink, stand down or play small, instead revel in you. Find some ways to offer your gratitude to your self just for being you. Try it today and see what happens. Set a challenge to notice and appreciate at least ten wonders of the miracle of you. Bonus points if you find more than ten. Ready, set and go!
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Little moments of joy call to us to pay attention to what it is that makes our heart smile. They ring with truth’s tone for the way they instantly restore us to our essential essence. As we experience them we are fully present in that moment.
Awareness of these tiny delights remind us that life is meant to be enjoyed while we are living it. They point the way to creating a life that uplifts and nurtures us.
They may be small, but they are powerful! When little moments of joy happen, notice them, pay close attention. Let them guide you and see what happens. Report back…
What is it that nurtures you? At first glance this question might seem frivolous or unrelated to your life. That’s understandable since we are conditioned to focus upon our work. If we live our life only concentrating on our career, burnout is sure to follow. Consider placing some attention on what nurtures you.
Start small. Begin with thinking about what uplifts you, notice what gives you energy, inspires you, makes you feel fit, centered or calm and happy during your day. These are the areas that support you in your life. They are a part of self-care and are what nurturing you is all about.
Acknowledge those things that drain you, tire you out, cause you stress and bring your energy down. Doing this is important because these are the opposite of self-care. Continuing to do too much of them destroys your well-being.
In order to nurture yourself commit to doing one small action today that lifts you. Also, let go of or modify one thing this week that drains you. If you add in nurturing things and release unsupportive ones you will begin to experience a lightness and appreciation for your life. This takes commitment and consistency. Nurture yourself each day and you begin to foster a life that cherishes you.
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“Once upon a time when the wind was new, I had a dream and created you.” The thought in my mind as I awoke today. It captured my attention. I began to wonder about the concept of being fashioned when the wind was still young.
The topic of whether intelligence, science or something much larger conceived of us is another conversation. No matter if you believe in some omnipresent being behind the design or in science alone, go with me for a moment.
Imagine for minute or two that we were dreamt into being long, long ago. It sort of shifts your awareness to the magnificent possibilities that exist within your being. How could it not? I find it difficult to believe that all of the planning to bring us here would not include absolute radiance!
What if my thought is true? How might if shift your life, your dreams and your space in the world if you knew that you really began when the wind was new? I am hoping that it sparks your imagination toward breathing life more fully into your being. What would it take for you to start living from the ancient, creative being that you are in true reality?
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Finding yourself in a place where what was and what may be can be challenging. You have grown beyond your old life and your new life has not yet fully formed.
It might be tempting to cling to the old since it is familiar. However, it is like wearing a pair of shoes that are too tight and pinch your toes. Trying it would be uncomfortable and part of you would always feel constricted. There is no shrinking possible on your part that will sustain you in a life that you have outgrown.
Turn your eyes toward the future and envision the life that you hope to live. I know it can be scary, maybe even downright terrifying to imagine. Still it calls to you. The tug on your heart will give voice to your dreams.
Negotiating the transition between your old life and the new one requires an honest admission that you’re leaving the old life behind. You already have so quit pretending that you can go back. It doesn’t fit you anymore. Once you have done this you can begin to move toward the new.
Now you can dream and get clear on what you want. You create a specific goal with an achievable plan to bring the life you want into being.
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