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You Can Say No Program

Many people find that they are challenged in saying yes to what they want or they put what they want last. Because this is so prevalent in our lives I created a program to assist with saying no.

It is the You Can Say No Program. This program allows you to explore saying no so that you can say yes to what you truly want.

This program is for you if you want to: gain or strengthen your ability to say no, stop being ignored, walked on, dismissed, talked over or shut down and if you wish to: have time for what is important to you, want to feel nurtured and supported in your days, be able to standup for yourself, have your voice be heard and open to the possibilities that enrich you.  

The You Can Say No Program is crafted to assist you in becoming comfortable and confident saying no in most instances so that you can say yes to create a life that you love.

  • Your Ability to Say No Quiz (Value $175) Take this quiz to see how well you are able to say no and find out why that is important. Use this link to take the quiz for free!
  • One Free Introductory Coaching Call focused on Your Ability to Say No Quiz results (Value $150) Send me an email at: after you take the quiz to schedule this free coaching call.

Saying no is important to your well-being. It is the first key to building a life that you love.

(An added benefit of calls includes never having to fight traffic or find parking, instead engage in coaching from the comfort of your own home.)

Planning your days to include more of what fills you in good ways and eliminate or change what empties or depletes you is how you begin to create a life that nurtures and supports you.

There is richness contained in what you want.  

Let me know if you have any questions. I’m looking forward to talking with you! Shelly O’Connell, Life Coach


Finding balance in our lives can prove to be illusive. Our culture prompts us to be ever busy but being on a wheel of constantly striving comes at a price. Most notably our body and mind start to suffer. When we miss the chance to slow down, we miss renewal and moments of peace.

One of the ways I have found to establish balance is by listening to my body and my inner knowing. Rather than ignore the signals sent to me from these sources and push through to one more thing, I respond to what it is they are telling me. If these signals tell me I need to rest or spend some time in nature, I make a way for that to happen. Even if I have to cancel plans or put something on hold, I do it. I know that this is counter to what our culture tell us but I am more concerned with my well-being. No one else can establish my well-being; that has to come from me.

Some tools that help me in maintaining my balance are meditation and yoga. There are a variety of modalities for all of us to keep our center. It may be that prayer or cycling do it for you. If you are unsure how to find balance try some things out to see what works for you. Nothing will work in every situation. Go with what works in most circumstances. Give yourself the gift of consistently doing those practices that help you to sustain balance. I find that life moves fluidly and with great Grace and Beauty when I am successful in keeping my balance.